There Shouldn’t Be A Mother’s Day
After spending this past Sunday celebrating Mother’s Day, I started thinking about how this day is celebrated or not celebrated by many. Before Sunday, I saw many memes, posts, and articles about things that mothers want for Mother’s Day. However, the day after I saw just as many stating how disappointing it is to wake up and be back in the daily reality on Monday. There were also many about how their day wasn’t what they expected. This got me to thinking and the only conclusion I could come up with was there shouldn’t be a Mother’s Day.
Now before you start wondering, I am a mother and a daughter to a wonderful mother. I enjoyed a great Mother’s Day and the only downside was that I didn’t get to spend it with my mother (as we live out of state.) So why do I think there shouldn’t be a Mother’s Day? I simply feel that this one day has been so built up over the years that many mothers set their expectations so high for what they want that there is no way their family could fulfill their wishes. They end up waking up Monday morning frustrated and feeling let down because the day wasn’t the magical thing they had hoped for. How would we feel if we were only acknowledged at work once a year and it was only a pat on the back or a free sandwich? We would feel unappreciated and that is how many mothers are going thru life. My therapist recently shared a simple saying that sums up this feeling.
This does not mean that I don’t think moms need to be honored and cherished. Instead of putting away one day to honor our mothers, we need to honor and cherish them everyday. We do not know how long we will have them with us on earth and we shouldn’t cheat them out of feeling loved, respected, and blessed. As we celebrate our mothers and set an example for our children, we will be teaching them how to treat us as mothers. Children learn by example and I still remember my mom calling my grandmother daily, stopping by to spend time with her, and letting her know she loved her. This has stayed with me and I strive to show these things to my daughter.
So how do we show our mother’s how special they are daily so that they will feel loved. We can accomplish this with simple acts that don’t even have to cost much.
- Phone calls to see about their day or just simply to say, “I Love You.”
- Send a text/video with a picture of the grandkids holding a sign that say “I Love You”
- Break out the pen and paper and send a letter or card with one of your favorite memories.
- Stop by for a visit and bring dinner – Make sure to clean up after.
- Create a photo album highlighting special moments in your life.
- Spend time doing something they want to do even if you don’t want to.
- Clean the house – even if you don’t live there anymore.
- Surprise her with flowers for no specific reason.
- Create photo coasters with family pictures.
- Frame the grandkids drawings and supply her with new ones every month.
These simple acts of kindness will go a long way in showing our mothers that we care and love them. These are also things we can do for our friends and sisters who are mothers so that they can also feel loved and honored. Start teaching your children how to treat you and others in your life by treating your mom with love all year long. These simple acts of kindness will help spread the love we have for our mothers to every day of the year. Leaving our mothers not dependent on one day a year but honored all year long.
So what are you thoughts on why there shouldn’t be a Mother’s Day? Do you agree or disagree?